Who knew there was so much love-wisdom in Judaism?

"There is only one story and it's your love story."
~Rabbi Ronnie Cahana

"Gives you a soulful glimpse of realistic...
spiritually romantic ways
for couples to relate."
~Rabbi Zalman Schacter-Shalomi

Rabbis and their spouses speak candidly about what it’s like to be married.

They tell stories about how they met and fell in love and how they make their marriage work. These stories reveal what happens when partners are committed to living at the meeting place of everyday love and spirituality.

So many little gifts of wisdom. Who knew there were so many wonderful ways to do love?

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Rabbis In Love
Rabbis In Love


"Yes. That's what I want from the person I love."

This is a book about love.

It’s about what love looks like in real life, and also about what love can look like when it’s a spiritual practice.

This is a book of stories from couples who are very much in love and at least one of the partners is a Rabbi. Of course, you don’t have to be Jewish to learn something from how a Rabbi and spouse make their love-nest. Every cultural group likes to think, “We’re unique.” Our claim is that we’re just like everyone else, only more so.

Rabbis aren’t monks. They fall in love, they marry, they have families. It’s expected. Jewish spirituality is rooted in daily family life; the joy, the passion, the tears, “the whole enchilada”, or as Jews would say, the whole megilla.

If you are one of those folks who take pleasure in getting a little ferclempt, which is Yiddish for “choked up about something nice,” you will probably enjoy reading these stories. There is something in Jewish culture that says it’s a good thing to feel deeply.

We did not create this to be a how-to book, although we do think it contains inspiring lessons. Rabbis in Love is first of all a book of stories.

If you’re a busy executive type and can’t wait to know the bottom line, the “Secrets-to-True-Love-that-Rabbis-Know,” skip ahead to the last chapter. But then come back and read the interviews.

Hearing someone’s stories about how they live their love is so much richer than merely hearing homilies.

A Relationship is a Story in Two Voices

Stories are a great way to capture relationships because stories tell you about what he did and then what she did and then what he did, round and round. It’s especially interesting to hear from both partners. You get to see how they are with each other, how they embellish and correct each other.

That is why we’ve kept the dialogue between the couples intact. It wasn’t an easy decision. The synthesized voice is very tidy; the voice of dialogue has all these interesting loose ends and you get more of a feeling for the relationship.

Meet The Rabbis

  • The Wings of Love and The Sheltered Nest of The Sabbath
    Rabbi Ronnie and Karen Cahana
  • This Love, Like the Moon in All Its Phases.

    Rabbi Leibish and Deena Hundert
  • Without Touching, Without Gazing, No Intimate Exchange of Words For Seven Years, and Yet…
    Rabbi Yisroel and Sara Bernath
  • How Different Can Two Be and Still Be One?

    Rabbi Haim and Caroline Sherrf

  • Do Not Awaken Love Until it is Ripe
    Rabbi Shefa Gold and Rachmiel O’Reagan, M.A.
  • Looking for Lilith

    Rabbi Ohad and Dawn Cherie Ezrahi
  • Two Rabbis,One Soul
    Rabbi Victor Gross and Rabbi Nadya Gross
  • Being There
    Rabbi Laura and Charles Kaplan
  • All the Waters of the Flood Cannot Drown Love
    Rabbi Lisa Grushcow and Rabbi Andrea Myers


Psychologist Philip Alan Belove and Jewish Studies leader Marilyn Bronstein, interviewed ten couples where one was a rabbi and asked them for their stories.


The Velveteen Rabbi

Back when I first took 70 faces on the road, I met a woman named Marilyn, in Montreal. She wanted to interview me and my spouse together for a forthcoming book on rabbinic marriages. The interview never took place, for a variety of reasons (mostly our lack of availability!) but the book is now out. It's called Rabbis In Love (LoveWise Publishing, 2013) and it was created by Marilyn Bronstein and Philip Belove. Here's part of how they describe the collection:

Rabbis aren’t monks. They fall in love, they marry, they have families. It’s expected. Jewish spirituality is rooted in daily family life; the joy, the passion, the tears, “the whole enchilada”, or as Jews would say, the whole megilla.

In the introduction, the editors tell the famed Talmudic story about the man who hides under his rabbi's bed in order to learn not only the Torah the rabbi is teaching in the classroom, but also the Torah he is teaching in the mundane acts of his ordinary life -- as the saying goes, "how he ties his shoes." . . . more

Rabbi Rachel Barenblat, Velveteen Rabbi

Almemar - A Jewish Arts Digest

After two decades of a seemingly endless stream of relationship advice and books about love – from pop-psychology explaining the differences between Martians and Venusians to Manolo-clad urban columnists proclaiming the death of romance – comes a very refreshing take on the true nature of love and marriage...

...Rabbis In Love is very, very sexy. Just listen to Dawn describe how physical lovemaking is actually a very important spiritual experience, a tangible way of experiencing the Presence of God:

“There was always a quality of sacredness is our lovemaking,” she says of sex with her husband, Rabbi Ohad, “of really setting a prayer, an intention to make Love. Sometimes we felt like, ‘How can I contain all this pleasure? It feels selfish almost.’ And so through our lovemaking, we started sending it out as a prayer to the people in our lives. It became so potent that it became one of our ways of praying.”

...people cry out “Oh God, Oh God,” in their intimate moments, and that Rabbi Ohad and Dawn are merely asking us to take those spontaneous cries seriously, because, to them, lovemaking is a form of prayer, and prayer is a form of lovemaking.. . . more

Ingrid Bejerman, Almemar

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Psychologist Philip Alan Belove
Jewish Studies leader Marilyn Bronstein

About The Authors

Psychologist Philip Alan Belove
Jewish Studies leader Marilyn Bronstein

Philip Alan Belove, M.A., Ed.D., is a public speaker, workshop leader and psychologist with M.A. from Alfred Adler Institute of Chicago, and Ed.D. from University of Massachusetts at Amherst. His focus is on how relationships work. His website is www.drbelove.com. As part of this focus he has explored and taught social dancing including swing and tango. He taught Communication between Men and Women at Keene State College for several years. He is a consulting psychologist with GBLA, a management consulting firm, and also maintains a private practice via internet and telephone. "Belov" is a common Russian name, like "Orlov" and "Chekov," and in Russian, it means "white." When the family arrived in America, the name was changed to "Belove," and thereby gained all those powerful connotations. Some people think the name on the website, Dr Belove, is a marketing ploy.

Marilyn Bronstein graduated from Maimonides College in Winnipeg where she studied with Rabbi Zalman Schachter-Shalomi as well as other great Rabbis that have inspired in her a life-long fascination with Jewish studies. She has been a professor at Champlain College for the last 27 years and has recently retired. Now she has time for her two passions: people’s stories and Judaism and how the two intersect. She composes Jewish chants and liturgy; she loves improvising in all of the creative arts: dance, singing, theatre, watercolors. she animates community events exploring Judaism through the arts.For 25 years, she was one of the guiding forces of Havurat Har Kodesh, a renewal group that was constantly exploring how to make Judaism relevant to our lives today. This is her first book.

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